Time to Say Goodbye
Saying good bye to our animal friends can be overwhelming, challenging and heartbreaking. Without an understanding of what is happening and what opportunities we have to carry on the legacy of our deep and enduring love together, it can sometimes feel hopeless.
When the time comes, we may struggle with feelings of anxiety and guilt – wondering if we have done everything we could have, everything we should have.
Perhaps I can share a few thoughts and lessons that I have learned to help ease the discomfort.
Above all, trust yourself. Of all the readings I have done with animals who have passed into Spirit, not one of them has ever complained that their person acted hastily or thoughtlessly during their last days.
These details that torment us simply do not seem to be of importance. The overwhelming message of gratitude and unconditional love that comes forth from the other side is all the proof I need to know that when we trust our hearts, we are always doing the right thing.
Take your time
When the end is near, take time to spend with your precious friend and let yourself open fully to the love that you have shared together. It may be painful at first, to open to the depth of your relationship and all that it has meant over your time together.
Speak to them. Hold them. Play. Laugh. Eat. Say what is on your mind and in your heart. Let yourself be vulnerable. Honour your bond and let it be acknowledged fully. Don’t hold back.
Include loved ones
Allow others who have loved your pet to say their good byes as well. Visit animal friends, groomers and shopkeepers who have shared a special bond. Let them express their gratitude and love to you and your pet.
If there are other pets in your household, they need time for goodbyes as well. Explain to them clearly what is happening and provide as many details as you can. If possible, let them be there in the final moments – even if that means bringing them to the vet appointment as well.
Keep the connection alive
You will be connected to your beloved friend forever. When you are apart, you may feel his breath on your cheek or hear her running in the halls. Let these reminders heal your heart. That is their purpose.
Consider getting an intuitive reading. This can provide you the peace and reassurance that you seek. It is so soothing to hear your pet’s perspective and know how they feel about things, and also to share your thoughts and love and gratitude.
Most of all, be gentle and patient with yourself. Whatever you are feeling is the right thing to be feeling. The relationship you shared with your pet was real and deep and true. There is no such thing as “just an animal”. But then, you already know this – don’t you?
Tamryn Fudge is an animal communicator, dog trainer and shamanic practitioner and student. She offers shamanic dog training to help you and your dog get closer and love deeper - for aggression and behaviour problems, everyday learning and puppy teaching. Group and private sessions available.
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