All happy, no hustle
Bryssa is her name. Happy is her game. She has no hustle in her, not an ounce. When rushed, she slows even more. Like a lovely brown donkey. So, you learn how to go with the happy and let go of the hustle.
At the end of our trail run, she wanders while I stretch and cool down. She putters about in the bushes along the parking area and plays in the inground sprinklers watering the park field. She wades in the creek and drinks fresh water as it runs past her toes. She sometimes lays in the shade to cool down.
Then it’s time to go: pack up the leashes and get the car keys and hop in the car. Except, there is no hop from Bryssa. I call her name and she looks up from wherever she is, contemplates me and my cause, then carries on with her task.
On days when I am not in a rush, I sit somewhere lovely and wait for her to finish. When she wanders back to the car, we go on our way. On days when I am in a rush, I walk to her and then she follows me back to the car. Or I use the emergency recall that I teach all of my clients – when there is no room for delay. I always know how to make things work when I need to. Bryssa remains happy and peaceful, like a hippopotamus grazing in the mud flats, utterly unaffected by anything else around her. Including my requests for hustle.
It is one of my favourite things about her – her happiness mindset. She resides in this place of warmth and sweetness and wiggle that I am so grateful to visit every time I am with her. I love it so much that I never want to alter this way of being.
Recently I forgot my gratitude to be in Bryssa’s world each morning and I became terribly serious, deciding that Bryssa needed to learn how to hustle.
Here is how it went: I started by calling her in a more steady tone, urging her to hurry up – we had to go. She stood, as she does, staring. Like a pleasant cow in a pasture, chewing its cud and contemplating something lovely. No urgency in sight. No hustle to be seen. Just happy girl.
I got more serious, to show that happy time is over, and hustle time is now upon us. No more dawdling. I am a dog trainer, for goodness sake. I need a dog who hustles when she’s called. Period. No argument.
Nothing. No change. No clue. Just happy girl, watching and standing. This is where the moment took an interesting turn: I got in my car, sure that she would sense the urgency and not want to be left behind. Nothing. Still standing. Watching. Happy. Then I turned car on. Watching. Standing.
Eventually, I pushed things more. I began driving down the park driveway, towards the road. Standing. Still. Watching. Frozen. Confused. My actions kept ploughing forward, and I kept driving.
By now, I have made myself panic. What if she comes running after me, onto the road? Ack!! I quickly turn around, hustle up the driveway, looking for her with urgent eyes. I see her, standing in our parking spot. Looking scared, confused, hurt and rejected. Sigh. The only hustle here is mine, trying to get to her quickly to reassure her how loved she is and how I would not leave without her.
She looks sad and lonely. I get her in the car. We go home.
This is what happens when I try walking in both worlds: testing my limits to see what world I like best. Decided. I like the world best with space and permission to thoroughly enjoy and worship my dog Bryssa for the peaceful joyful and mindful girl she is. The world that does not, in any circumstances, decide that in this equation there needs to be a winner. That does not declare me dominant and her submissive; me the winner and she the loser.
I love my girl just as she is. I love walking towards her as the sun touches the earth and spreads across the fields. Seeing her face rise from the ground, lovingly surprised that I have appeared in front of her. Constantly fresh and new as though it is the first time I have ever led her back to the car. Stopping for a hug and a smooch along the way.
My Bryssa is all happy, no hustle. I like it that way.
Tamryn Fudge is an animal communicator, dog trainer and shamanic practitioner and student. She offers shamanic dog training to help you and your dog get closer and love deeper - for aggression and behaviour problems, everyday learning and puppy teaching. Group and private sessions available.
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